Registered in Ireland: I have started going out with a guy I really like. We have a great time together, lots of sexual chemistry, but as soon as we get going he loses his erection.
Registered in Ireland: We have a great relationship and a good sex life, but recently there have been occasions when he loses his erection during sex. Am I boring him?
Question: Hi, I am a 19 year old virgin and my girlfriend and I have been together for five months. We love each other very much and are very comfortable with one another. We tried to have sex a few times and I have not been able to maintain an erection when it comes time for vaginal insertion.
When men become sexually aroused, hormones, muscles, nerves, and blood vessels all work with one another to create an erection. Nerve signals, sent from the brain to the penis, stimulate muscles to relax. This, in turn, allows blood to flow to the tissue in the penis.
Penises come in all shapes and sizes and so do erections. Most men experience erection problems at some stage during their life. Most of the time, the occasional loss of erection is normal and not usually anything more than a minor inconvenience.
I am 42 years old and always seem to quickly lose my erection during sex. I love and fancy my girlfriend, but this problem has been with me pretty much all of my life. I have been to my GP, had all the tests for pretty much everything and I am the picture of health.
In order for the sexual function to begin in men, sexual desire is necessary. Usually, sexual desire in men becomes apparent as an impulse and is accompanied by sexual thoughts and fantasies. However, recent studies have shown that the sexual function can be triggered, without the necessary pre-existence of sexual impulses, as long as there is intent on the part of a male to allow himself to be taken by the sexual stimuli, in order to enjoy himself. The idea that men are always in the mood to have sex is clearly a myth.
Nor is the inability to have another erection soon after an orgasm. Nearly every man occasionally has trouble getting an erection, and most partners understand that. The problem often develops gradually.